Trying to please others (instead of focusing on doing things as well as we possibly can) is so often a major reason why people don\u2019t perform up to their capabilities.\u00a0 My experience leads me to believe that this is due to the increased pressure that comes with this unnecessary worry\u00a0(“they won\u2019t like me if I excel”, “I shouldn’t talk about my idea – others will think it is stupid”).\u00a0 Encouraging others to give up \u201coughts\u201d and \u201cshoulds\u201d for \u201cwant to\u2019s\u201d and \u201clike to\u2019s\u201d typically leads to more intrinsic motivation, enjoyment, commitment – and less need to be micro-managed.\u00a0<\/p>\n
As Jack Welch and Jim Collins note in their works, more idea surface when a team is less concerned with pleasing others and more concerned with putting their best ideas \u201cout there\u201d for the team to discuss and debate.\u00a0 Often, people report that they do not voice their ideas out of fear of being ridiculed or not appreciated – those who are less concerned with pleasing others will be more confident in bringing more ideas to the table.\u00a0 Is there an unspoken idea in the head of one of your people right now that could change the course of your organization?<\/p>\n