{"id":694,"date":"2010-02-03T14:18:00","date_gmt":"2010-02-03T19:18:00","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/?p=694"},"modified":"2010-02-23T07:38:12","modified_gmt":"2010-02-23T12:38:12","slug":"interpersonal-expertise-tip-affirming-similar-core-values","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/694\/interpersonal-expertise-tip-affirming-similar-core-values","title":{"rendered":"Interpersonal Expertise Tip: Affirming Similar Core Values"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In order to have a truly satisfying relationship with other people we must know our core values (ways of thinking or behaving that we do not want to compromise on) and be able to identify and affirm these values in important others.\u00a0 Having a clear idea of these values helps us and those around us to better know whether or not we can expect to have a smooth relationship or one that will consistently experience dissatisfying &#8220;road bumps.&#8221;\u00a0 This Interpersonal Expertise Tip focuses on identifying core values in ourselves and others &#8211; and how affirm these values in ways that strengthen relationships.<\/p>\n<p>Core values can be affirmed by becoming clear about our own values and helping others do the same.\u00a0 If this is done thoroughly, the chances that we will be able to affirm similarities goes up significantly (longer lists of core values makes it more likely that at least one core value from each person&#8217;s list will overlap).\u00a0 Here are some ways people have been able to affirm similar core values:<!--more--><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><strong>Phase I: Generate a list of your Primary and Secondary Objectives in life and keep it updated. <\/strong>The first step in core value affirmation with others is often awareness of our own core values.\u00a0 One way people become aware of these values is through an exercise we call &#8220;Primary and Secondary Objective Identification.&#8221;\u00a0 We normally recommend that people begin by identifying the top 5 priorities in their lives (AKA: Primary Objectives), then move on to clarifying their next 5 most important objectives (what we call Secondary Objectives).\u00a0 Of course, everyone&#8217;s objectives will be different, but here are some\u00a0examples of the kinds of Primary Objectives that people often list during this exercise: (a) Be a healthy individual, (b) Promote effectiveness and satisfaction throughout my team or family, (c) Increase my revenue by 10% every year.\u00a0 Secondary Objectives are often priorities that are still important, but are not as important as Primary Objectives.\u00a0 Again, Secondary Objectives depend on what is important to individuals, but here are some examples we have noticed\u00a0making peoples&#8217; lists over the years: (a) Learn to play an instrument, (b) Read more books on my top 100 list, (c) Visit a new city every 2-3 years.\u00a0 Regardless of what makes our list, we can become more aware of what we value most when engaging in this exercise.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Phase II: Ask others to generate and update their own Primary and Secondary Objectives. <\/strong>We we have completed our own list of objectives in life, we can move one step closer to affirming similar values with others by asking them to engage in the same exercise.\u00a0 It can be helpful to show others our own list of objectives so others get a quick and clear sense of what this exercise entails.\u00a0 We&#8217;ve found this process can be an extremely fun and effective way of getting to know others and\/or breaking the ice with new people in our lives.<\/li>\n<li><strong>Phase III: On a regular basis (weekly, monthly, quarterly, etc.) identify areas of Primary and Secondary Objective overlap and regularly affirm these similar core values. <\/strong>So often, it can be easy to forget our similarities as we are encouraged in many ways to be focused on our differences.\u00a0 Setting regular times to update and share our Primary and Secondary Objective lists with important others can be a way to ensure we stay focused on our common interests and values.\u00a0 Very often, these get-togethers can be an opportunity to talk about how we can support each others&#8217; objectives in life; for example, helping people meet others who can help them, devising a plan to work together on some common objectives, or simply rooting each other on as everyone moves toward their most important aims or experiences in their lives.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><strong>NOTE TO THOSE USING THE MISSION FULFILLMENT SYSTEM:<\/strong> You can move toward increased Interpersonal Expertise by adding a new Objective to your system using the \u201cAdd New Item\u201d link (for example, \u201cRegularly affirm similar core values with important others in my life\u201d).\u00a0 You can then develop a SMART Goal related to that new Objective by using the \u201cAdd Subitem\u201d link to the far right of the new Objective (for example, \u201cMeet with Jane and Chris once a month to go over our list of Primary Objectives together and identify areas where we want to support each other.\u201d).<br \/>\n<strong><\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>FOR THOSE WHO ARE NOT ON THE MISSION FULFILLMENT SYSTEM: <\/strong><a href=\"..\/..\/tracking_execution.php\" target=\"_blank\">Click here<\/a> to for more information and <a href=\"..\/..\/contact.php\" target=\"_blank\">click here<\/a> to sign up.<\/p>\n<p><strong>FINAL NOTE:<\/strong> If you were linked to this article by a video or email, please return to that link and proceed with any other instructions that you deem helpful.\u00a0\u00a0For more Execution Excellence and Interpersonal Expertise tips and tools visit our site at: <a href=\"..\/..\/\" target=\"_blank\">www.excellenceuniversity.net<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>In order to have a truly satisfying relationship with other people we must know our core values (ways of thinking or behaving that we do not want to compromise on) and be able to identify and affirm these values in important others.\u00a0 Having a clear idea of these values helps us and those around us [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[22],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-694","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-interpersonal-expertise"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/694","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=694"}],"version-history":[{"count":13,"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/694\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":771,"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/694\/revisions\/771"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=694"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=694"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.excellenceuniversity.net\/journal\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=694"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}